What do families need?

When I work with families with adopted children in them and they have special behaviors, I always work with the whole family - parents are included as I offer advice, etc. to them about
other parenting techniques that make with with RAD behaviors. I will work with the child
individually sometimes, and more often with the child while parents are in the room. I feel that the family must stabilize - often when families have found me and the services, they are at the
"end of the rope" and cannot take much more. Our first session is usually encouraging to them, as now they have found someone who understands - someone who "gets it" and that in itself is
exciting and energizing - I do not think they are the bad parents, but perhaps the child has some
problems.
Peace and Joy
Chris

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