Helping each other.
I have seen a number of families helping each other out. I think those P-cwad and C-cwad )(parents and caregivers of children with attachment disorder) can be very supportive to each other as you all share common experiences and one of the best supports is talking to others who live through it or are living with it, and also those who have seen improvements. I also have had
several parents who have been willing to provide some respite for others. I only recommend the
respite if I think the respite caregiver will follow a structured, tight childcare. NONE of my P-cwad and C-cwad have ever wanted the child to go away and come home worse!! Makes things worse at home and child then feels superior. Many things in the cwad realm are mysteries - I often say I don't know why and, again, we could go crazy trying to get in the minds of these children and trying to understand them with our minds. Sometimes it is best to let go, shrug your shoulders, say it "just is" but discipline anyway - sort of like "assume guilt" first and say "if I find out differently, I will apologize" - there is seldom a need to apologize to RAD children.
Families have also gone to other blogs and chat rooms to find families with P and C-cwad's. Sometimes the sites can be depressing and radical and not all parents are in the same place.
Some families are on the very edge and very angry while other P-cwad are still in the search and understanding phase, where they are still eager to learn and understand. When they read P-cwad who are not at the same stage, they can get very scared and panic. Also, all CWAD are at
different places on the continuum of attachment disorder and cannot be compared and very few CWAD have ONLY RAD.
Enough for today. Feel free to contribute.
Chris Appell, LCPC
815-398-8422
Rockford, IL
http://www.theattachmentgroup.org/
several parents who have been willing to provide some respite for others. I only recommend the
respite if I think the respite caregiver will follow a structured, tight childcare. NONE of my P-cwad and C-cwad have ever wanted the child to go away and come home worse!! Makes things worse at home and child then feels superior. Many things in the cwad realm are mysteries - I often say I don't know why and, again, we could go crazy trying to get in the minds of these children and trying to understand them with our minds. Sometimes it is best to let go, shrug your shoulders, say it "just is" but discipline anyway - sort of like "assume guilt" first and say "if I find out differently, I will apologize" - there is seldom a need to apologize to RAD children.
Families have also gone to other blogs and chat rooms to find families with P and C-cwad's. Sometimes the sites can be depressing and radical and not all parents are in the same place.
Some families are on the very edge and very angry while other P-cwad are still in the search and understanding phase, where they are still eager to learn and understand. When they read P-cwad who are not at the same stage, they can get very scared and panic. Also, all CWAD are at
different places on the continuum of attachment disorder and cannot be compared and very few CWAD have ONLY RAD.
Enough for today. Feel free to contribute.
Chris Appell, LCPC
815-398-8422
Rockford, IL
http://www.theattachmentgroup.org/
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